Guys, avoid sticking your foot in your mouth when you go speed dating and learn from the speed dating experts about what women really want to hear. Girls, if you’ve a male friend who could do with a little lesson in the dating department, direct his eyes towards this article!

Justin Parfitt, founder of FastLife Speed Dating & Singles Events, reveals all… Enjoy and learn your lesson before it’s too late!

Four things she’d love to hear on your speed date…

1) “You look great!” You’re better off being conservative with your adjectives here. Women want to know that you’ve noticed they look nice but telling her she looks “amazing” and “gorgeous” might be a bit much at the beginning of your date. No need to be too specific; just let her know you’ve noticed that she looks good.

2) “What do you like to do outside of work?” This may seem innocuous, but it shows you care and are interested in her life. By asking about a person’s occupation instead, you could bring out suspicions of checking for “wallet-padding.” It’s also possible that she’s not in love with her job so asking about it could make her uncomfortable or even put her into a bad mood. Asking her what her passions are outside of the workplace will give you a better idea of her personality, rather than her resume. Make sure to really listen to her response and ask open-ended questions to show you’re interested in what she’s saying.

3) “I’ve had a really great time with you.” At the end of your speed-date, let her know you enjoyed meeting her and that you had a nice conversation. You’ll get feedback on how she’s feeling. Hopefully she’ll beam back and say “Me too!” and you’ll be a match the next day.

4) “What do you think about such-and-such topic?” Guys, you’re great at telling the ladies what you think, but you can be a bit stingy about seeking out their opinion. Ask your date for her view and she’ll be flattered–and stimulating discourse is bound to ensue. Naturally, steer clear of obscure subjects and only bring up hot-button issues like politics.

…And four things she’d hate to hear…

1) “You’ve really got a great body. Do you work out or something?” Dude, please. This is way too objectifying and will make her uncomfortable. Avoid mention of any particular body part or anything lingerie or swimsuit related.

2) “Oh, I know all about that!” If you do know all about it, by all means have a real conversation about that topic. But if you don’t really know about the topic, stop right there! Women like intelligent, informed, worldly men, but they also appreciate humility. When you put on your “superior face,” you’re so not sexy. If she wanted a know-it-all, she’d spend her evening with Wikipedia.

3) “So I’ve been shopping for a new BMW…” Such a transparent attempt to impress her will have the reverse effect–unless you hear “cha-chiiing” and dollar signs appear in her eyes. So bag those “I’m a big man” comments about your stuff, your status and your salary.

4) “You look/act/talk just like my ex-girlfriend/ex-wife/mother.” Women don’t really want to be compared to any other woman. They’d rather make their own impression on you rather than remind you of someone you have such a history with, especially if it’s not a good history. Oh and your mother is a lot older than your date so she definitely won’t appreciate that!

Some people believe that there is a person made for them somewhere in the world. With the help of online dating, meeting that person becomes all the more likely when you open your boundaries beyond the geographical area in which you live. Online dating has many advantages and helps hundreds of thousands of couples get together each and every year. If you still haven’t found the person of your dreams, and have yet to try online dating, then it’s time to get started in the world of dating online.

Finding A Dating Website

When you’re looking for a dating website, one great place to start is to ask your friends and family. This is especially true if you know someone that has met a partner online – if you don’t then this it is not something to worry about. Simply visit a search engine such as Google or Yahoo and type in ‘online dating’ and you’ll be presented with thousands of results to choose from. You could also choose to visit a directory such as dmoz.org or botw.org and go to the dating category, as there are loads of dating sites there too!

Make Sure You Stand Out

Once you have found a dating website, and when you’re signing up, you need to make yourself stand out from the thousands of other people that also have a profile on the site. This means, firstly, you should always give a lot of information about yourself and your interests. Have pictures, and let people know your likes and dislikes. If you don’t have enough information then nobody is going to be able to decide if you’re the one for them – and when there are so many people for them to choose from, why would they dedicate time to getting to know those that aren’t as active, or as serious, about their participation, on the site?

Be Yourself

If you decide to adopt a persona on your dating website profile then it is unlikely to have a positive result. Why? Well firstly, people can usually see right through this, however the main reason is because it will mean that any relationships will have no potential. Remember, even if you originally meet someone online, you are going to have to see them in real life at some point! When you do meet them for real, you will need to be able to live up to what you have claimed. This means that the only solution is to be yourself from the outset if you want anything to come of relationships that start online.

Don’t Delay

If you are serious about meeting people online then there is no need to hang around before you get started. Simply dive right in at the deep end and get started today. If you have yet to find the partner of your dreams then the chances are that you haven’t been trying hard enough so far! This means you need to go out there and get started right away. Be yourself, and you should do just great in the world of internet dating.